Top 10 Traits Men Look for in a Girlfriend


Have you ever wondered what traits guys look for in a girlfriend? Believe it or not, it’s not all about having big boobs and knowing how to make a mean roast beef sandwich–although we’re pretty sure they won’t say “no” to those.

So for you girls who are wondering what the opposite sex really wants, the boys over at have kindly compiled a list for us ladies:

10. She’s Independent

Men want an independent woman. No surprises there. Independence is a trait valued in anyone, man or woman, and relationships work better if both parties aren’t dependent on each other. “Independence is key to a happy relationship, for both the man and the woman,” explains. “You’ll find you’re still getting to know her long after you’ve gotten serious if she has a host of interests and commitments outside of your relationship.”

9. She’s Intelligent

It’s no secret that intelligence is sexy. There’s no shame in being smart! “A woman who can meet you at an intellectual level is a total turn-on,” says. 

8. She’s Sexual

No, this doesn’t mean they want a sexpot who will rip off her man’s clothes at every opportunity. says: “A great girlfriend has to be sexually compatible with you… The two of you have to be on the same page… and are able to communicate your desires verbally (or with physical cues).”

7. You’re Attracted to Her

Hmm. Here’s what had to say about this one: “I know, this one is kind of obvious, but important nonetheless. A great girlfriend will not only want to look good for you, but also for herself… Being seen with her should make you feel better about yourself. And this doesn’t mean that she has to be a Heidi Klum clone. Whatever floats your boat. Your mutual attraction should make you both want to stay looking your best.”

6. She Respects You

Respect for each other is of course an important factor in any relationship. And anyway, who doesn’t want to be respected? “The key here is that the respect be mutual — it’s very hard for one of you to respect the other while feeling disrespected,” says.

5. She Lets You Be a Man

Sometimes it’s okay to let him wear the pants in the relationship, girls! And maybe don’t constantly drag him to see chick flicks or force him to get pedicures with you. says: “Do not get involved with a woman who tries to get you to eat cottage cheese and fruit for breakfast and insists that you give up poker night with the guys. You will end up resenting her more than you can imagine. A good girlfriend lets you be a guy in all your glory, poker night and all. ” 

4. She Doesn’t Nag Without a Good Reason

“We’ve never met a man who was convinced to change his behavior because of his girlfriend’s nagging,” says. “A great girlfriend knows this and chooses her battles wisely. She knows when to get upset and when to let it slide.”

3.  She Gets Along With Your Friends and Family

As with everything in this list, this one’s pretty obvious. “A great girlfriend will make an effort to get to know your people,” explains. “She’ll help your parents out at Thanksgiving, try to understand your brother’s twisted sense of humor and want to get to know your friends… [and] not only that, but your friends won’t roll their eyes and moan when you mention that she’ll be joining you guys when she gets off work — she’s one of the crowd.”

2. She Loves You

Men, being the flawed creatures that they are, want a woman who can love them unconditionally despite their flaws… and as long as these flaws don’t involve womanizing or anything truly terrible, then why not, right? says: “If you have found a woman who loves you for who you really are and not who you pretend or try to be sometimes, you should definitely hang on to her.”

1. She Makes You Want to Be a Better Man

You’re probably thinking, “how cliché!” But hear them out: “Any man who has a great girlfriend or wife will tell you that she makes him want to be a better man. She doesn’t have to say or do anything; it just is that way. If you suddenly feel bad about how you treated your sister when you were younger or find yourself trying to get your finances in order to prepare for the future, you might want to think about your motivation for doing so. It could be love.”

And there you have it!

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