Drama Free Friendships: 3 Lessons from Primetime’s Women
Drama Free Friendships: Rules from Rebel, Zoe and Mindy.
I am not a TV-addict but I would say I have formed very strong one-sided friendships with Mindy Kaling, Rebel Wilson and Zooey Deschanel from their respective television shows. The Mindy Project, Super Fun Night and New Girl make me proud of my gender and wearing cute dresses with leggings. I am super delighted with these queens of comedy and the path they are creating for future female leads. I feel they epitomize what I appreciate about drama free lady friendships, so I thought I would share a few of the rules I have garnered from stalking, I mean DVR’ing them.
Rule 1: Sisters Before Misters. This friendship rule was best highlighted in Super Fun Night in a recent episode when Kimmie gets a male companion. Her friends become a bit jealous and Kimmie gets a tad defensive but learns in the end that her friends were there before, are there during, and if it all falls apart…will be there after her boyfriend. In New Girl, Jess works this rule by protecting her friend Cece when Schmidt is cheating on her with another girl. I loved her protective mama bear mode in this episode because she is actually friends with both of them, but she knew who to stand by and she did it loudly. Our friends need to know they matter to us, regardless of who else we bring into our lives. If we proactively take time to show them they matter, drama will no place in our ‘ship!
Rule 2: Embrace what makes you unique. Mindy rocks her curves and cracks me up hardcore when she (who is a writer for her show as well) reacts to others telling her that she is overweight. She so clearly is not, but I reason she writes it in the script because no matter our size, we all feel that way- she just handles it better. Because she is so proud of who she is, she rocks her friendships with flare and confidence. The same goes for all of the girls on Super Fun Night- each of them is so different and they base their friendships on how these various traits build a friendship mansion. Instead of trying to be “twinsies” celebrate what makes you and your friends different from each other. When you do, you will make each other feel special and further strengthen the bond you share.
Rule 3: Make time for friends. Super Fun Night is probably the best example of this, as the name and basis for the show suggests. They have standing appointments to eat together, go to crazy Comic con-esque events as a team and take on the town as a sparkly threesome. As we get older it is so easy to fall into work/school-significant other time but carve out more than just a few minutes to connect on Facebook. Find out what the rest of her Selfie looks like in person! You will never regret the time you spend learning about each other as you grow but you will regret growing apart without knowing each other.
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