10 helpful hints to change your post-baby blues to post-baby bliss
So, you’ve just had a baby. Now is the time when you think back to all of those people who kept telling you to sleep and enjoy it while you were pregnant- yea, as if there is some sleep storage button you can use to save up for a later date. Wishful thinking! Although you cannot even begin to describe the emotional journey you have just embarked upon, the true wonder and awe you feel when you look into your new little creations eyes, all the gooing and gagaing over the adorable miniature outfits you are now playing dress up with, (all the while wondering why the tiniest buttons seem to be the number one choice in baby clothes which you now wrestle with as your baby squirms around. And why does there need to be 20 of them?!) All of this is a beautiful journey, but the reality is, you’re not sleeping, a shower now seems like a luxury, and time to yourself is non-existent. Here are a few tips to help with the baby blues and turning them into baby bliss.
1- Sleep- There is no doubt that during the first months with a newborn baby, you will be sleep deprived. You will look back to your years of actually having to set an alarm clock to wake-up, having those lazy Sunday mornings, and relishing your breakfast in bed. You may wonder if life as you knew it will ever be the same. The answer is no, but you’re about to embark on a whole new adventure, an amazing one, but one filled with many many sleepless nights. Advice: Sleep when your baby naps. Resist the urge to do laundry, clean the house, and reply to emails. They all can wait. Your time is limited. Sleep.
2- Exercise. Whether it’s taking your newborn for a whirl in your chic new stroller, holding you baby while doing mini squats and lifts, or doing mommy and me yoga, the endorphins that exercise produces will help with mental clarity, help reduce exhaustion, give you that little energy boost you need, and also help with losing that extra baby weight.
3- Eat. This new lifestyle of yours leaves little time for just you, so plan ahead. When you go to the grocery store, stock up on lots of fresh fruits and veggies. Be sure to continue taking your pre-natal vitamins and pop fish oil to help ease with mental exhaustion.
4- Get out of the house. So many new moms struggle with this during the first few months of having a baby. Even the littlest errands that used to be so simple, all of a sudden seem daunting. Although it takes a bit more planning and practice, being and feeling a part of the world as you knew it is revitalizing and refreshing.
5- See your friends. Make plans, even if just for an hour escape, a mani/pedi, glass of wine, or morning walk. Make the extra effort to still be part of your girls’ circle. They will love you for it, and you will love them.
6- Make your shower into a spa experience with eucalyptus or lavender oils. Take a few drops and put it in the palm of your hands, and inhale. Breathe deeply and relax. Let you mind escape to that island paradise you are wishing you were on right about now.
7- 1O minutes of pre-bed pamper. As important as it is to set a bedtime routine for your baby, creating a nightly bedtime ritual for yourself is equally as essential. Give yourself a 5 minute mini foot massage, a 2 minute silent mediation, listen to music, slow dance with your partner, light a candle and unwind. It may last only a few moments, but the effects are long lasting.
8- Take a break- read a gossip magazine. Gossip magazines always have a funny way of making you feel part of the world and up to date on all the juiciest celebrity happenings. Grab a magazine to read while breastfeeding, pumping, or bottle feeding.
9- Date Night. Be sure to plan even just an hour or two date night with your partner every week. You need to make that time to reconnect, have hands-free time, and be able to enjoy each other as you always have before. Let’s face it, it’s those times that got you into this new baby life afterall. Take a bike ride, go to the movies, make a picnic in the park. Whatever it is, make sure it’s just the two of you.
10- Laugh. It’s true what they say that laughter is the best medicine. Don’t lose your sense of humor with all the seemingly endless baby stuff- do’s, don’ts, must-haves, need to haves, should do’s, have you tried’s etc. This time is special, and it’s temporary. We all make mistakes, there is no single right way to do things or a recipe for baby success. Be gentle with yourself, relax, see the humor in your life, your baby, and your spouse in this new journey. It won’t be long until you and you little one share in your first giggle together. That is true baby bliss.