Your Best Friend Is Dating Your Ex

Oh boy.  It is one of those lines that all girls know not to cross but it just happens sometimes.  How are you supposed to handle your ex-boyfriend dating your best friend?  People might think that you are immature if you don’t want to hang out with them anymore.  Others might say you are doing the right thing.  How should you handle this situation?  Well, you have to do what you think is best for you.


There is no right way to go about tolerating this specific situation.  It’s hard enough trying to be friends with your ex after you guys break up but now your best friend is with him which means you’re supposed to hand out with them all of the time.  That just won’t work.  How are you supposed to get over him when he is making out with Suzy Q right next to you?

It is safe to say that you might not want to hang out with them when they are together for a while.  Sure, it might seem immature or “lame.”  You have to look out for yourself and how you feel.  Coping with a break up takes a while.  You need time and distance away from that person.  It might take a month, a year, or a lifetime.  Whichever one it may be depends on how your heart feels.  I guarantee that you will feel a lot better if you stay clear from your best friend and your ex being together in the same place.

If you do end up seeing them out, this is when your maturity level is tested.  You might not want to stay in their presence long enough for a conversation, therefor, you smile or say hi and then mind your own business.  If you happen to be in a place where you can’t just leave (like a grocery line) then you should try to make small talk.  Don’t ever ask how their relationship is going or what they do together.  Keep it simple and to the point.  Ask about their jobs, school, pets, parents, etc.  You don’t want to know about how they are doing as a whole so you shouldn’t ask.

If you can’t handle seeing them at all then I guess you will just have to ignore them.  Like I said, there is no right way to handle this situation.  You have to do what is best for you.  Obviously, you are the only one who knows what that entails so you must call the shots.

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