Is Breaking Up Breaking You?

Loving someone can take up a lot of energy.  Breaking up with someone can also do that.

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People always think that they know exactly what they are going to say when they want to break it off with their boo.  When it comes down to it, it’s all stutters.  “It’s not you, it’s me.”  “Were just not working out.”  “I love you but I’m not in love with you.”  These are all phrases we have heard or said at least once in our lifetime.  Those are the sugarcoated versions of what we really want to say.  These phrases stop us from getting what we want which is out of the relationship.  This causes your significant other, who is now your ex, to continue to call and try to fix the damages.

You didn’t say what you wanted to so now it is breaking you down.  You should have said how you didn’t like when he went out all of the time.  You should have let him know that you might have found someone else.  Now you are still going over there every other night and sleeping in his bed.  Is it the comfort that you want or do you just feel bad for him?  Sleeping with one another will just start the cycle over again.  Stand your ground and let him know what you are really thinking so you don’t get caught up in the game of love.

You will only be wearing yourself out if you are not honest.  Breaking up with your man will be hard in the first place and even harder if you don’t get the whole thing over with.  Dragging it on with phone calls and text messages won’t help you.  If he says he misses you, you can not say it back.  What’s done is done and there is no turning back.  If you are unsure of how you feel then you need to take time away from him and the things that remind you of him.  Taking care of yourself is what you need to keep in mind.  Feeling bad for him is no excuse to keep him around.

Let yourself go when you let him go.  Go do things that you have been wanting to do so you can fill the void of him.  Leave the phone at home or in the car when you go out to eat with your friends.  The temptation will still be there but you won’t have your phone to actually contact him.

The best thing you can do when you break up with someone is to tell them the truth.  They should know what is going on and what you want to actually happen with the both of you.  Be strong and stand up for what you think.  Don’t let the break up break you down.

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