He Loves Me? He Loves Me Not?

You met this guy online and you definitely hit it off when you first met in person.  It was a match made in heaven when you guys first started chatting in that little box on the side of your computer.  It’s been a great 7 months for your blossoming relationship but there is one question you want to know.  Does he love you?


If you want to know, then you should ask.  I say that like is an easy thing to do.  Are there any signs that he has given to imply that he might actually be in love with you?  Maybe you need to know what to look for if you are unsure.

Here are 5 things to look for to possibly find out if he loves you at this point in your relationship:

Takes You On Dates

Sometimes when you get past the 3 month period in a relationship you no longer go on dates.  The warmth of the “cute couple syndrome” wears off and you both sit at home and watch T.V. without say much.  The relationship can sometimes turn into sex then bed.  No dates.  No fun times.  No good conversation.  Just making out and sex.  If he still takes you out on dates then you know he is a keeper.  He is totally into you and can possibly love you at this point.  If he hasn’t given into the couch and video game lifestyle yet, then he definitely has a huge place for you in his heart.

Meeting The Parents

Have you met his parents yet?  Meeting the parents should always be a slow and steady process.  If he brings you home then he’s got hardcore feelings for you.  He wouldn’t bring home a girl and introduce her as his girlfriend if he wasn’t serious about you.  Does this mean he loves you?  It means that he’s got something planned and you are a part of it.  Letting you into the family is a sure sign of love.  It shows that he is completely happy with you and the direction things are going.

Includes You In The Future

Your boy is always talking about future vacations and trips.  He always includes you in them.  Not only does he include you in on vacations, but he also makes sure to add your name to the present swap for Christmas.  He might not be planning a wedding or anything too serious, but Christmas is a pretty big step.  When you are invited over for holidays, you know that he has love for you.  Even when he talks about money, he talks about the money you two will have together within the next year.  Moving in with each other hasn’t been brought up but it has been mentioned in conversation.  If he says things like, “Yeah, when we get a place later on…” then he has things in store that you don’t even know about.

Stays With You

Speaking of your own apartment together… you can’t seem to ever find a time when he is not at yours.  He loves to stay with you.  He even asks you to come over all of the time, too.  It’s as though he just can’t get enough of you.  Helping you cook and clean to keep the place organized is such a sweet thing to do.  When he can’t keep his hands off of you for a second, you know he loves you.  He doesn’t want to spend one moment without you so you know you are good to go!

Makes Everything Workout

Having a bad day is never easy.  That is why they are called bad days.  No matter what, your little SuperMan comes to your rescue every time.  He might get off work at 10 p.m., but he is always at your door with something that you love.  Your car breaks down so he lets you take his.  Riding the bus is better for a guy to do than a girl so he offers to ride city transportation.  Giving up his car is a huge deal, especially when he has to take public transportation.

There are plenty of ways to find out if he actually loves you at this point in your relationship.  These are just 5 flags to pay attention to.  Don’t expect him to love you or you will never have it.  Pushing love is an awful way to keep a relationship going.  You have to be subtle and just grow your feelings together.


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